Monday, June 23, 2008

hard parts of this work....

This week, we had to inform a family that the bio mom changed her mind. This mom had been wanting "help" for adopting her son out to a family months before the birth. Sw's had talked to her and everything was going great. The family was ready and even sent stuff for baby.
After mom had baby, then she decided she wanted to take care of baby for one month. Weekly, two sw's would visit. Now that baby is almost one month old, she has decided to keep baby. Heartbroke, anger, and a bunch of other emotions run through my heart and mind (as well as sw's)...................we don't know why it happened, but God allowed it to happen.
I feel the family is taking it better than me! I was able to visit bio mom and I feel it will be best for baby to be adopted out. We have learned alot from this case, DON'T LET MOM'S TAKE BABY HOME after birth!!! I think we will look at each case individually, but still, not allow as much freedom in that area.
Please pray for that family as they mourn this loss. Please pray for us as we continue to work to get babies into home of loving Christian families.

We had something else happen, a family that is adopting brother's found out there is a younger sister! the sw asked the mom and the mom won't allow baby sister to be adopted overseas. Weird, i know..............a baby she gave birth too and abandoned in the hospital 6 months ago, she wants to have "visitation rights" even after child is adopted domestically. She was told she can see baby until she is 6 yrs old......................there are things I'll never know why they happen, but they do............. God is in control of it all................very hard to remember and keep at the forefront of our mind!!!

3 comments:

Cheryl said...

I can't imagine doing the job you do...the joys of uniting children with forever parents and the sadness of delivering heartbreaking news when potential matches don't end well...

Extreme highs and lows...

We are praying God would keep you emotionally centered through all you do so you may be able to do the same for those you work with...

which you do well with us:)

I thank God for you and the Sprit he has given you every single day!

Unknown said...

Can we pray that God's grace cover this new mother and help her to be the parent that this child deserves? I know it's difficult and disappointing, but at the same time, perhaps it was God's will that this biological mother parent this child after all. Certainly we can lift them up in prayer too.
Peace & Blessings!

Akabah said...

I'm just speechless, and horrified. Don't let mothers take their babies home??? because they might change their mind???? THIS is what you should be working for- not wrangling the babies away from their birthfamilies and sending them out of the country. horrified.